This is a very insightful article. As a man raised in a western country, I struggled for a long time and ended up marrying a Russian woman. When the system is rigged against you, you need to think outside of the system, make compromises, cut through the all the cultural BS, figure out the essence of what you really want and ignore what everyone else tells you. If you're an unlucky person, listening to other people's advice is a waste of time because they live in lala land and all their advice only works in lala land... It doesn't work in hell.